Hands up, anyone else who feels even mildly disturbed that Paul's getting married?  I can't be the only one!!  It's so confusing though.  I mean, I don't have even the tiniest of crushes on Sir Paul,  so why should I care?  Why is it that I had an instant dislike to Heather?  I never minded that he was married to Linda!!  Sure, I have tons of pictures of him of when he was a handsome young thing all over my room, but that's different, right?  Having only barely passed Psych 1 this is the best I could come up with!

Modern Beatlegirls are quite accustomed to the fact that while it's nice to think about (very nice!) there really is no possible way at all that we could end up being with a young, handsome Beatle.  We're removed from them by decades.  We're always presented with two conflicting images:  pretty-boy young Paul, and 60yo Sir Paul.  If you're looking for daydream material you're always going to opt for Paul the young cutie, but we're always reminded that Paul is an old man whenever reality butts in -  we know that 40-year-old photos and film footage is all we'll ever have.  And that it's very, very different from being in love with a 60yo man!

But if we'd been alive in the 60's, falling in love with Paul would have been a little easier.  There'd always be that "just maybe.." chance that something could bring you together, even though you'd still be seperated by fame, fortune, not to mention security!  Original 60's Beatlegirls felt that they had a right to their Beatles.  Because they were the ones that bought the records, and screamed at the concerts, and hearing news of their darling eligible bachelors, those dreamy boys that serenaded them every night, that gazed down upon them from their bedroom walls, being with girls other than themselves..!!  Naturally, it caused a very jealous reaction.  Vented of course, in hating the object of the Beatle's desire. Hence Beatlegirls of the 60's didn't like Linda at all when she married Paul, nor did they like any of the Beatle wives.  Maureen and Cynthia were grudgingly accepted though, because at least they were once ordinary girls like them, who had done the impossible and captured a Beatle heart.

But for us modern Beatlegirls, Linda was fine.  We could all handle Paul being married to Linda, because she’d been part of the picture for as long as we’d known.  Our image of young handsome Paul is also tied up in what he became in his older years - a loving husband and father.  When she died, we all felt awful for Paul.  No-one even for a moment thought, “Yes!  He’s single!!”

So perhaps we aren’t so happy about Heather because she goes against what we’d always pictured older Paul to be.  It disturbs our image of the young cutie Paul. We expected him to be a dignified widower and maybe have a lady companion of his age in a few years time.  Not to go out with a blonde ex-lingerie model who’s only just older than his kids, a year and a half after Linda passed away.  (Is it just me, or is that younger-blonde-thing just such a typical aging-male-celebrity thing to do?  Yet Mick Jagger is now Sir Michael, and Ozzie Osbourne is the toast of America.  Has the world gone mad??!)  I guess it just intrudes more into our daydreams.

Of course, we shouldn't just reflect on first impressions, or first reactions.  We don't think that Heather is a bad person, nor do we have any right or reason to.  She does a lot for charity, and besides, if she makes Paul happy, then we should respect that and be happy for him.

Logically, (and rather depressingly, for Beatlegirls of any era) there's only one outcome.  They're gonna do what makes them happy. In the end the Beatles' lives are their own, and we can't really be any part of it, other than be part of the adoring mass that they know is out there.  So why is it so hard to deal with?  Because I'm so fond of Paul, I'm worried about him, and suspicious of this newcomer in his life when he's always said Linda was his soulmate.  I don't want him to end up hurt.  At the end of the day you have to accept that he knows Heather a lot better than we do, and trust that they know what they're doing.  Besides, we'll always be there for him even if she isn't.
 
 

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